-:: Suicidal Ideation ::-

I was browsing youtube for interesting clips and I found this hilarious clip… It’s somewhat Japanese or Chinese I think, hehehe, I don’t really know, I can’t distinguish what the language is. You don’t expect the ending, I bet…hehehe…

Suicide is often extremely traumatic for the friends and family members that remain (the survivors), even though people that attempt suicide often think that no-one cares about them. In addition to the feelings of grief normally associated with a person’s death, there may be guilt, anger, resentment, remorse, confusion and great distress over unresolved issues. The stigma surrounding suicide can make it extremely difficult for survivors to deal with their grief and can cause them also to feel terribly isolated.

Survivors often find that people relate differently to them after the suicide, and may be very reluctant to talk about what has happened for fear of condemnation. They often feel like a failure because someone they cared so much about has chosen to suicide, and may also be fearful of forming any new relationships because of the intense pain they have experienced through the relationship with the person who has completed suicide.

People who have experienced the suicide of someone they cared deeply about can benefit from "survivor groups", where they can relate to people who have been through a similar experience, and know they will be accepted without being judged or condemned. Most counselling services should be able to refer people to groups in their local area. Survivor groups, counselling and other appropriate help can be of tremendous assistance in easing the intense burden of unresolved feelings that suicide survivors often carry.

There usually are people to whom a suicidal person can turn for help; if you ever know someone is feeling suicidal, or feel suicidal yourself, seek out people who could help, and keep seeking until you find someone who will listen. Once again, the only way to know if someone is feeling suicidal is if you ask them and they tell you.

Suicidal people, like all of us, need love, understanding and care. People usually don’t ask "are you feeling so bad that you’re thinking about suicide?" directly. Locking themselves away increases the isolation they feel and the likelihood that they may attempt suicide. Asking if they are feeling suicidal has the effect of giving them permission to feel the way they do, which reduces their isolation; if they are feeling suicidal, they may see that someone else is beginning to understand how they feel.

If someone you know tells you that they feel suicidal, above all, listen to them. Then listen some more. Tell them "I don’t want you to die". Try to make yourself available to hear about how they feel, and try to form a "no-suicide contract": ask them to promise you that they won’t suicide, and that if they feel that they want to hurt themselves again, they won’t do anything until they can contact either you, or someone else that can support them. Take them seriously, and refer them to someone equipped to help them most effectively, such as a Doctor, Community Health Centre, Counsellor, Psychologist, Social Worker, Youth Worker, Minister, etc etc. If they appear acutely suicidal and won’t talk, you may need to get them to a hospital emergency department.

Don’t try to "rescue" them or to take their responsibilities on board yourself, or be a hero and try to handle the situation on your own. You can be the most help by referring them to someone equipped to offer them the help they need, while you continue to support them and remember that what happens is ultimately their responsibility. Get yourself some support too, as you try to get support for them; don’t try to save the world on your own shoulders.

If you don’t know where to turn, chances are there are a number of 24 Hour anonymous telephone counselling or suicide prevention services in your area that you can call, listed in your local telephone directory.

Often suicidal people will give warning signs, consciously or unconsciously, indicating that they need help and often in the hope that they will be rescued. These usually occur in clusters, so often several warning signs will be apparent. The presence of one or more of these warning signs is not intended as a guarantee that the person is suicidal: the only way to know for sure is to ask them. In other cases, a suicidal person may not want to be rescued, and may avoid giving warning signs.

Typical warning signs which are often exhibited by people who are feeling suicidal include:

• Withdrawing from friends and family.
• Depression, broadly speaking; not necessarily a diagnosable mental illness such as clinical depression, but indicated by signs such as:
  • Loss of interest in usual activities.
  • Showing signs of sadness, hopelessness, irritability.
  • Changes in appetite, weight, behavior, level of activity or sleep patterns.
  • Loss of energy.
  • Making negative comments about self.
  • Recurring suicidal thoughts or fantasies.
  • Sudden change from extreme depression to being `at peace’ (may indicate that they have decided to attempt suicide).
• Talking, Writing or Hinting about suicide.
• Previous attempts.
• Feelings of hopelessness and helplessness.
• Purposefully putting personal affairs in order:
  • Giving away possessions.
  • Sudden intense interest in personal wills or life insurance.
  • `Clearing the air’ over personal incidents from the past.

This list is not definitive: some people may show no signs yet still feel suicidal, others may show many signs yet be coping OK; the only way to know for sure is to ask. In conjunction with the risk factors listed above, this list is intended to help people identify others who may be in need of support.

If a person is highly perturbed, has formed a potentially lethal plan to kill themselves and has the means to carry it out immediately available, they would be considered likely to attempt suicide.

People usually attempt suicide to block unbearable emotional pain, which is caused by a wide variety of problems. It is often a cry for help. A person attempting suicide is often so distressed that they are unable to see that they have other options: we can help prevent a tragedy by endeavoring to understand how they feel and helping them to look for better choices that they could make. Suicidal people often feel terribly isolated; because of their distress, they may not think of anyone they can turn to, furthering this isolation.

In the vast majority of cases a suicide attemptor would choose differently if they were not in great distress and were able to evaluate their options objectively. Most suicidal people give warning signs in the hope that they will be rescued, because they are intent on stopping their emotional pain, not on dying.

August 28, 2007 — Owen Wilson’s medical emergency Sunday was an attempted suicide, a log of calls made to Santa Monica’s 911 line confirmed.

Reports of the distraught actor being found bloodied and dazed after overdosing on pills and slitting his wrists circulated Monday.

Sources told The Post that Wilson, 38, tried to take his own life after a bitter blowup with a close pal.

The tow-haired, Tinsel town hunk was discovered at home by a stunned fam ily member Sunday.

The log, first obtained by Extra TV, shows the 911 call was received on Sunday at 12:08:16 p.m. The incident was "cleared" almost five hours later at 5:07:16 p.m.

The log doesn’t indicate who made the call Sunday, but lists "attempt suicide" as the reason for it.

"It’s hard. He’s such a wonderful person," one source said. "He’s such a great guy and so smart and just . . . nice. We’re just hoping he gets bet ter."

Wilson — who was listed in stable condi tion at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles — released a statement through his representative re questing privacy.

"I respectfully ask that the media allow me to receive care and heal in private during this difficult time," said the star of "Wedding Crashers."

Cedars-Sinai spokes woman Cynthia Harding confirmed that Wilson "is here and in good condition."

The actor had been transferred to Cedars-Sinai from St. John’s Hospital in Santa Monica after having undergone detox for the apparent pill overdose and surgery to his injured left wrist.

He will likely remain under the close watch of doctors for at least the next several days, one source said.

Authorities were alerted to the apparent suicide attempt after someone called Santa Monica police, and an ambulance raced to the home just after noon Sunday.

There were no details as to what may have caused Wilson to go off the deep end, except that the incident occurred shortly after a vicious quarrel with an unidentified friend.

Wilson’s last serious romantic relationship — with beauty Kate Hudson — fell apart just before Memorial Day.

Hudson had been spotted over the weekend very publicly canoodling with handsome new love Dax Shepard, but sources insisted that it did not contribute to Wilson’s emotional turmoil.

Wilson’s family rushed to his hospital bedside.

His older brother, Andrew, appeared worried as he left the Santa Monica house and headed to the hospital early yesterday, one neighbor said.

His famous younger brother, actor Luke Wilson, was already at the hospital, said a source. Other visitors included actor Samuel L. Jackson.

Wilson’s uncle Joe, who shares a house with Owen, said, "He’s fine, and the family is doing great."

One neighbor said that when she heard the ambulance, she was surprised because Wilson never causes any trouble.

"All the neighbors like him, he’s a friendly guy. He never has any crazy parties or does anything wrong," Betty Miller said.

But Wilson, 38 - who always appeared to be a happy slacker type - has a dark history of depression.

"It’s very upsetting. People are complicated. It’s not just one thing," said a friend of the actor.